Music and love: Intimate connection.

In my previous post, I talked about my early dealings with music, and the value of music's presence in my teens, as it was part of my formative years.

Music had other influences and effects during my life. Love. Must of music lyrics, and poetry in general, has to do with the feelings of love; either happiness or heartbreak derived from love, or even hate, as we know that between love and hate is only a thread in between.
In my case, music and love were part of the source of happiness.

Now, the link between the finding of love and music was the british band Tindersticks.

Tindersticks has a been a very important band in my life, their haunting music catched my imagination and my deepest feelings...Some journalists called them 'Chamber pop' and they were put under the same bracket with bands such as Lambshop, Walkabout, and Cousteau (another very important band in my life).

Tindersticks is important in my life, as they were a direct link within a certain loneliness and my love life.
As a 'Sticks' fan, I used to post in their online forum, and share thoughts about the band, their influences, and what their music meant for me and for other fans in the forum.
I met someone in this forum, we took things further outside this forum, and a beautiful relationship blossomed. I was in Chile he was in Birmingham. We spend at least over a year writting emails to each other. Our love for Tindersticks and music in general, our personal angst and loneliness brought us togheter too.
After thousands of email,we decided to be together. I took the plunge and I went to the UK, we loved each other, and after a few years we married.  The day of the marriage, we received many presents, but was a single present the most important of all: We received a huge bunch of flowers, which for our surprise, was sent by Tindersticks!!  We had a acquintance who new the band's manager and they thought in this gesture, giving our story....
Our marriage was beautiful, but came to a halt recently. We are not together anymore.
Music brought too lonely souls together, sadly circumstances beyond our control  had brought us apart....
But this does not take away the fact that Music was there when I was the happiest in my life...at least I was then.
Who knows, maybe my inconditional love for music might bring love back to my life, and to his life again.
Anyway...thank you Tindersticks, thank you Stuart and co. for bringing me happiness  all this years!!!

Tindersticks circa 1996

Stuart Staples.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moxF6OjD8xI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfF7dP41U58